My Family Blog: Jake & Robyn

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

I don't want a picky eater


Love these ideas for introducing food to little C. My goal- create an environment that produces an adventurous little omnivore.

Getting Kids to Try a New Food

Five get-real tips for expanding your child’s palate, from the author of The Mom 100 Cookbook: 100 Recipes Every Mom Needs in Her Back Pocket. Plus, these wrap recipes are great for lunch
By Katie Workman

1.  Sorry for the all caps but DO NOT OFFER YOUR KID SOMETHING TO TRY WHILE SIMULTANEOUSLY SAYING, “I DON’T THINK YOU’RE GOING TO LIKE THIS.” We all catch ourselves doing this occasionally, and realize, just after the words have escaped and it’s too late, Oops. Now what are the odds that your child will turn around and say, “No, Mom, you’re wrong; this 8-bean soup is fantastic!”
2.  Realize that your kids probably think they are going to hate most new things, and that it is your job to basically ignore that fact, and keep moving forward, like a shark. Otherwise in fifty years we are going to be looking at senior communities filled with people nibbling on chicken nuggets and debating the merits of honey-mustard vs. barbecue sauce, both of which will probably give them all heartburn.
3.  Start with small portions. This is mentioned a couple of times in the book, especially when it comes to things like fish or anything kids look at suspiciously. A big slab or bowl of something they are skeptical of may result in a stonewall, while a little two-bite experiment is much more likely to be acceptable. (VERY IMPORTANT!)
4.  Keep a bit of a poker face. In other words, as hard as it is (and it is hard) don’t beg (except for fish, where begging is sometimes acceptable). If your kids know you really want them to like something, they may resist it more. This isn’t total control-freakism on their part, just a little.
5.  Employ peer pressure (the good kind). Make an effort to eat with other kids (often bigger kids) who have broader palates than your children do. Your picky eater may be willing to give something a shot in the name of being perceived as cool or more grown up. In summary, my children would probably not have ingested such large portions of Thai-flavored carrot coconut milk bisque at a friend’s house recently without three super cool, unflappable high schoolers at the table. (Can't wait for our second sushi experience. Our first was with candy sushi.)
Excerpted from The Mom 100 Cookbook: 100 Recipes Every Mom Needs in Her Back Pocket. Copyright 2012 by Katie Workman. Used by permission of Workman Publishing Co., Inc. New York. All Rights Reserved.

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Love that my Dr. follows this recommendation


New Childhood Allergy Guidelines Recommend Early Exposure to Eggs, Peanuts


If you’re constantly monitoring your infant’s diet, afraid of putting him at risk for food-related allergies, it may be time to let your guard down a little. New guidelines from the American Academy of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology (AAAAI) suggest high-risk allergens like peanuts, eggs, and fish can be safely added to your baby’s diet between the ages of 4-6 months as “complementary foods.” Not only is this exposure safe for children, the Academy says, it may even help prevent dangerous food allergies from developing. 
The new guidelines, published in the January 2013 issue of The Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology: In Practice, are in line with the American Academy of Pediatrics’ current recommendations on the exposure of infants to high-risk foods, and take the conversation one step further by explaining how and when to add these foods to your child’s diet.
The authors of the paper offer tips on ensuring kids are introduced to these foods safely:
• The child can be given an initial taste of one of these foods at home, rather than at day care or at a restaurant.
• Parents should be advised that for some foods, such as peanuts, most reactions occur in response to what is believed to be the initial ingestion.
• If there is no apparent reaction, the food can be introduced in gradually increasing amounts.
• Introduction of other new foods should proceed at a rate of one new food every 3 to 5 days if no reactions occur.
“There may be situations,” the authors clarify, “when it is appropriate to vary this advice, such as for infants with an established diagnosis of food allergy or severe eczema.”
In such cases, seek advice from your family’s pediatrician or a childhood allergy specialist.
“Food allergy reactions are immediate, so if a mother is in her own home, and she gives her baby that first bit of peanut butter and they react, she is going to know, and she is going to take that child to the doctor,” says Amal Assa'ad, MD, of the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center.
“If we leave children to their own devices, and someone in daycare gives them a peanut butter sandwich, they may have a reaction, and no one will notice.”
Assa’ad, one of the study co-authors, cited vomiting, diarrhea, gassiness, and skin rash as the most common symptoms of food allergies in a child between the ages of 4-6 months. Should your child exhibit any of these symptoms after ingesting a potential allergen, consult your doctor.
Assa’ad also suggested breastfeeding as an early tool to combat childhood milk allergies.
”Breastfeeding is one of the things that is thought to be protective,” she tells Parenting. 
“Exclusive breastfeeding for at least four and up to six months is something that is beneficial in protecting against allergies. For those that cannot breastfeed, it is suggested that they use hydrolyzed formula, because that can help prevent cow milk allergies.”

Friday, March 22, 2013

Purposeful Play


Everyday Ways to Help Kids Learn

You can help your child start learning from physics to problem solving—all without breaking a sweat or boring them silly.

By Linda Rodgers

It was easy to teach my daughter when she was a baby—all I had to do was keep up a running commentary and she soaked everything up like a sponge. But once she started school, I let the teachers do most of the heavy lifting, especially in science and math. I’m not the only mom who’s hands-off when it comes to her child’s learning. “We think teaching is talking at kids and telling them stuff,” says Barbara Wolf, Ph.D., an associate vice president of family learning at the Children’s Museum in Indianapolis. “Instead, it’s about taking advantage of natural, everyday moments to ask questions and get the wheels working inside that little brain.” And it pays off: Recent studies show that the more involved you are in helping your child learn at home, the better he’ll do at school, academically and socially. So read on to find the best activities for teaching a slew of complex concepts that can maximize your kids’ brain power.

Cooking
It was easy to teach my daughter when she was a baby—all I had to do was keep up a running commentary and she soaked everything up like a sponge. But once she started school, I let the teachers do most of the heavy lifting, especially in science and math. I’m not the only mom who’s hands-off when it comes to her child’s learning. “We think teaching is talking at kids and telling them stuff,” says Barbara Wolf, Ph.D., an associate vice president of family learning at the Children’s Museum in Indianapolis. “Instead, it’s about taking advantage of natural, everyday moments to ask questions and get the wheels working inside that little brain.” And it pays off: Recent studies show that the more involved you are in helping your child learn at home, the better he’ll do at school, academically and socially. So read on to find the best activities for teaching a slew of complex concepts that can maximize your kids’ brain power.

Looking at a Construction Site
Most adults think of science as an experiment or equation that has nothing to do with everyday life. But science is the process for figuring out how things work, explains Lisa Niver Rajna, a K-6 science teacher in Los Angeles. When you think of it that way, even a construction site can turn into a physics lesson.
 What kids can learn: There’s plenty of physics involved in watching hardhats push wheelbarrows or hoist beams: Point out how hard the person has to push to get a wheelbarrow full of wet cement to move, and ask what he could do to make it go faster. Ask what would happen to the structure if the beams were all on one side, and now you’re on to engineering. If you stop by the same construction site on a regular basis, you’ll be able to sneak in another sequencing lesson when your child notices what comes first (the foundation), next (the beams and supports), and last (the roof and walls).
Go on a walk
Observation is the basis of science, so do what Rajna does when she takes her students out on a walk: ask your child to put on his imaginary detective hat and tell you everything he sees.
What kids can learn:You can work in a lesson about photosynthesis when you and your child have a conversation about leaves: Why are they green in the spring, and why do they change color in the fall and drop off the trees? See how many different insects you see or different bird songs you hear. City kids can also soak up a little physics by noticing the timing of the traffic lights—do they depend on the flow of traffic to change or are they pre-set?


Eating
Making connection with the things kids know best is a great way for them to learn, says Becky Blake, a child behavior and learning expert and creator of the websitecreatingsuperkids.com. That’s why mealtimes are a good way to work in a little math.
What kids can learn: Count out the French fries or baby carrots as you serve them on your preschooler’s plate, and you’ll reinforce his counting skills; bump it up a notch when you count how many he has left after he eats one, and now you’ve taught him a lesson in subtraction. Cutting pizza or cake into eight slices gives your grade-schooler a lesson in fractions—especially if you ask him to tell you the percentage of the pizza that’s left after you serve two slices.
Snapping a Pic
Your phone is always with you, so turn its camera into a teaching tool and your child can pick up some very cool scientific principles of light, says Rajna.
What kids can learn:Get your child to snap a photo series of his shadow (or do it for him); by identifying which side of the photo his shadow is on and how long it is, he can learn about the earth’s rotation and the sun’s position. Or teach optics with apps like CamWow (for iPhones) or Effects Booth (for Droids). Both apps, which let you pick a variety of real-time filters that make objects look like something in a funhouse mirror as they bulge, elongate, and split in two, are fun (and funny) ways to talk about how light travels, and how it can be distorted by hitting a convex or concave lens.


Going to the Store
Whether you’re at the supermarket or Target, your child can pick up valuable experiences in reading, writing, and arithmetic while you shop, says Wolf.
What kids can learn: Recognizing patterns helps kids understand how things work together—and how to predict what comes next, which is crucial for learning math and algebra. Help your preschooler spot the patterns and shapes on clothes, bedding, or furniture the next time you’re in a department store. At the grocery store, he can hunt for the letters of his name or for numbers. Your grade-schooler can help you write out the grocery list, read the labels to check if foods are healthy enough to buy, and make change.
Doing Arts and Crafts
How can finger-painting or making a crafts project turn into a scientific experiment? Ask your preschooler the first principle of scientific inquiry, says Blake: “What would happen if…?”
What kids can learn: Ask your child what would happen if he mixed red and yellow, and then tell him to identify the new color (orange). Or see if he can figure out what makes tissue paper stick better—glue or water—and ask him why one worked better than another. Mix different substances: cornstarch and water to get paste, or oil, water, and glitter. You can hone an older child’s powers of observation (also good for budding scientists) by putting a flower, a piece of fruit, or a toy in front of him and telling him to draw everything he sees, suggests Wolf. And of course, all that mixing, touching, and drawing helps kids perfect their fine-motor skills, which they need for writing letters.
Doing Arts and Crafts
How can finger-painting or making a crafts project turn into a scientific experiment? Ask your preschooler the first principle of scientific inquiry, says Blake: “What would happen if…?”
What kids can learn: Ask your child what would happen if he mixed red and yellow, and then tell him to identify the new color (orange). Or see if he can figure out what makes tissue paper stick better—glue or water—and ask him why one worked better than another. Mix different substances: cornstarch and water to get paste, or oil, water, and glitter. You can hone an older child’s powers of observation (also good for budding scientists) by putting a flower, a piece of fruit, or a toy in front of him and telling him to draw everything he sees, suggests Wolf. And of course, all that mixing, touching, and drawing helps kids perfect their fine-motor skills, which they need for writing letters.
Doing Chores
Giving your child a tasks around the house not only gives him a sense of responsibility, it can help him pick up some math and critical thinking skills, says Blake.
What kids can learn: Sorting helps little kids learn to classify and compare objects, and notice how they are alike and different, the groundwork for learning algebra and becoming a logical thinker. When you do laundry, unload the dishwasher, or pick up the playroom, let your sweetie sort socks and towels, silverware, or toys by color, size, shape, or type. While he’s putting things away, say, “You’ve only got a few crayons left,” or “We have several blue washcloths,” so he can begin to associate numbers with math terms like “many,” “several,” and “few.” Your preschooler can organize your loose change by size, but by first grade, he’ll be able to arrange the coins into piles of pennies, nickels, and so on.
Playing
From babyhood, playtime is how your little one has been making sense of the world. But asking questions can take play to a whole new level, say experts.
What kids can learn: For preschoolers, playing with stuffed animals or puppets lets them work through an experience that happened to them; by asking them if Teddy is sad or happy or confused, you build their emotional vocabulary.  You can maximize your kid’s problem-solving abilities while he’s doing puzzles or building a structure by asking him why he thinks a puzzle or Lego piece doesn’t fit. Or sneak in a little math by asking your child to count his jumps on the trampoline or while he’s skipping rope. Then time him: Ask him to count the number of jumps he does in one minute or how fast he can jump for that amount of time, and see if he notices any correlation between the length of time and the number of jumps, suggests Blake.
Taking a Bath
Bubbles and stick-on letters can get old after a while, but these activities can turn bath-time into a blast and prep a preschooler for bigger-kid learning.
What kids can learn:Let your preschooler figure out what floats and sinks—a sponge? His boat? The bar of soap?—and see if he can figure out why. Or have him hunt for the letters he knows on the shampoo or body wash bottle. After the bath, he can sort through his playthings and put them away according to type—first the boats, then the duckies, and so on.





Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Things I will be glad I did


They Grow Up So Fast! 15 Sweet Ways to Soak Up Your Kids' Childhood

Childhood is fleeting -- so try one or all of these easy ways to stop and cherish your kids while they're little

Everyone always tells you that your kids' childhood goes by in a flash -- even though it never seems that way when you're changing a poopydiaper at 3:00 a.m. or knee-deep in Legos. But just when you think you'll have aninfant glued to your hip forever, suddenly you have atoddler on the run, a preschooler who can do it all by himself, a kindergartner who only wants to snuggle at bedtime or a grade schoolerwho so doesn't need you to walk her to the school's front door. That's why it helps if you soak up a few extra moments of sweetness while you can. Here, 15 easy ways to cherish your kids.

Be a kid again. When you set your kid up with a craft project, it's your job to make sure she doesn't eat the finger paint or try to put sequins up her nose. But every so often, roll up your sleeves and join her in the sticky, messy fun. Being on the ground together, making a pizza out of Play-Doh or building a robot out of popsicle sticks, gives you a unique glimpse into her budding creative process and lets you two connect in a whole new way. More importantly, it lets you really be present. (And did we mention it's fun?)

See things from your kid's point of view. What does the world look like to your kids? Hand over your smartphone (or a disposable camera if you don't trust them with youriPhone) and find out. Ask them to snap pictures of whatever catches their eye, and when the photo session is done, flip through the pictures together and ask them to tell you what they found so interesting. Their answers might surprise you.

Write them a note. Whether it's a goofy knock-knock joke in her lunchbox or a top 10 list of things you love about her taped to the bathroom mirror, giving your child a handwritten note is a sweet way to show her you care. And in this day and age, when it's so easy to get away from actually writing things down on paper, it just may become an unexpected keepsake.

Have coffee with your kid. Few activities mean more to your kid than uninterrupted, one-on-one time with Mom or Dad. Whether you've got time for an afterschool bike ride together during the week or carve out time on the weekend (with you and your hubs each taking a child alone for some special time), it's an investment worth making. Even a quick, 15-minute trip to get coffee (for you) and hot cocoa (for him) in the morning can have a resoundingly positive effect on your kid.

Ask them for a daily recap. It's easy to think that your kids don't want to dish about their day, but you might be surprised if you simply pose the question a different way. Ask your child to share the best and worst parts of her day and consider having everyone in the family do the same. Discussing the lows as well as the highs teaches your child that talking about a problem can help you feel better. And seeing you share your own challenges can nurture their coping skills as well.

Put your kids in charge. Declare an evening Kids' Night, where you and your partner treat the kiddos to a few fun-filled hours of their own design. Maybe you go out to their favorite restaurant (a treat for you, too, since someone else does the cooking and cleaning), or keep it simply by ordering a pizza and cuddling up on the sofa to watch a movie together. The point is to spend time together as a family and let your kids call the shots.

Play hooky. Gold stars are great, but if you really want to reward your kid for a job well done at school, let her skip a day of classes when there's nothing too important going on -- or even just that afterschool piano lesson -- and spend it with you instead. Treat her to lunch at her favorite spot and let her decide what you do afterward.

Write down what they say. Kids say the funniest things, but even the best stuff can be forgotten over time. The solution? Jot down those hilarious one-liners in a journal, a scrapbook -- or even just email them to yourself for posterity. When they're a little older, you can read your favorites aloud to your child. Writing down an entry may take a few extra minutes, but cracking up together over silly stories later makes it all worthwhile.

Do something spontaneous. Whether it's letting them put on their rain boots and jump in mud puddles, going out to lunch on a random Tuesday or making a spur-of-the-moment detour to get ice cream, surprise your kid every now and then. Chances are he'll still be talking about it months later.

Take measure of your kids. A lot can happen in a year, especially when you're young. Keep track of his progress by conducting an "interview" every year on his birthday. Record vital stats like age, height, favorite color, his best friend's name and his dream job, and ask him to pose for a picture (or take a selfie, if he's old enough). Read over what you wrote in previous years and marvel at how much he's changed and grown.

Start a family tradition. Decorate her door with streamers and balloons on her birthday every year, or bake (together) the same family-favorite dessert for every special occasion, or head to the farmer's market every Saturday -- it doesn't have to be complicated or fancy to become a meaningful family ritual that your kids will look forward to. (And maybe even try to recreate with their own families some day!)

Give him piggyback rides. Yes, he's perfectly capable of walking. But someday, Mama, he'll be too big for you to carry -- on your shoulders, in your arms or attached, koala-like, to your leg -- and you'll miss having that little monkey on your back.

Have a sleepover with your kid. Even if you already spend your nights with your kids sleeping next to you (or trying to get your kids back into their own beds), plan ahead to spend a night in their room. Whether you climb into the top bunk or throw sleeping bags on the floor, your kids will always remember the novelty of it all.

Kiss them. A lot. Never underestimate the power of a smooch or two. Now, while they'll still let you, pepper your love nuggets with lots of butterfly kisses, Eskimo kisses and super-tickly raspberries. Repeat often.